How To Make Your New Years Resolutions Actually Stick

Dear Ones,

Many years ago, I asked my therapist: how do people change? He thought for a moment and answered, "In my experience, people only can change when they fully accept themselves."

Huh?

It was like a koan - a puzzle that is unsolvable through logical thinking. How could full acceptance be the catalyst for change, if the whole point is that we want to change something because we don't like it?

I came to realize, however, that when I attempted to make change from a place of fear or hatred, they almost always failed.

I hate my body so I want to change it.

I fear my loneliness so I want to reach out to people more.

I hate my anxiety so I should meditate.

All of these resolutions I had were built on a foundation of non-acceptance, self-hatred, and self-rejection. I could never sustain them because the foundation was so painful that I just wanted to give up.

When I thought about other people I cared about, however, I had no trouble cheering them on in their endeavors. I wanted great things for them, not because they were flawed or bad as they were, but as an extension of my love for them, I wanted more good things for them! Couldn't I do the same for myself?

From this place of self-love and acceptance, my resolutions then came out a bit differently:

I want to feel strong and present in my body.

I want to open more connection and love in my life.

I want to let anxiety sit alongside joy and all my emotions in heart

We don't have to give up on creating resolutions. In fact, what are New Years Resolutions but commitments to growth and expansion and self-actualization? We just have to root them in love to allow them to blossom.

This is just ONE critical element in creating a New Year's Resolution list that is powerful, actionable, and will go the distance in producing real change in your life. But you don't have to do it alone.

Join us next Sunday for:

Reflect - Renew - Reveal: A New Year's Mini-Retreat

🧘‍♀️ Pause + Reflect on your 2025 — celebrate the wins, name the challenges
🧠 Connect with Inner Guidance for what truly matters in 2026
🪩 Turn Vision into Actionable Plans that align with your values and are rooted in love
🤝 Leave With Clarity + Supportive Intentions — not vague goals

📍 Date & Time: Sunday, Jan 4, 2026, 3-5pm ET/12-2pm PT
📍 Format: LIVE ZOOM (recording available) Guided meditation, reflection, journaling, visioning, and action planning.
👉 Join us and make 2026 the year your intentions stick.​
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Much love,

Yael