Did You Get What You Wanted, Even So?


Dear Friends,

I had the pleasure of talking with my friend Koshin Paley Ellison for my Youtube Series on Dharma and Desire a few weeks ago, and so much from our conversation has stuck with me as ever more heartbreak, fear and horror fills the news.

We discussed how to experience the pleasure of desiring things without needing to posses them, about Dogen's idea of being time, rather than "spending" time, and Jung's idea of "being in the time in your life," which is a way to experience presence and ease.

Koshin also shares the unforgettable (believe me - you won't forget it) story of Angulimala and his conflicting desires, and the difference between desire to please others and desire rooted in deep knowing and wisdom.

Koshin also shared this beautiful poem, which was Raymond Carver's last poem and is inscribed on his headstone:

And did you get what
you wanted from this life, even so?
I did.
And what did you want?
To call myself beloved, to feel myself
beloved on the earth.

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🎥You can watch the full conversation with Koshin Paley Ellison on YouTube now.

Let me know what you think! I hope it brings you as much groundedness and ease as it has been bringing me!

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You are all deeply beloved to me, my friends. I hope you each feel yourself beloved on this earth today.

Love,

Yael

Yael Shy is the CEO and Founder of Sefira Wellness with over two decades of supporting others in uncovering their inherent worth and capacity for deep joy through mindfulness. She is the author of the award-winning book What Now? Meditation for Your Twenties and Beyond (Parallax, 2017) and teaches at NYU’s Wagner School of Public Service. You can find her on Instagram at @yaelshy1.

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Yael Shy is the CEO and Founder of ​Sefira Wellness​ with over two decades of supporting others in uncovering their inherent worth and capacity for deep joy through mindfulness. She is the author of the award-winning book ​What Now? Meditation for Your Twenties and Beyond (Parallax, 2017)​ and teaches at NYU’s Wagner School of Public Service.

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